Mediation in High-Conflict Divorce Settings

Northern Virginia Divorce Mediators Helping Couples Focus on Solutions in High-Conflict Divorces

Skilled mediators offering practical guidance and innovative solutions that divorce lawyers cannot

Conflict affects two key aspects of divorce. The first affected aspect is how the core divorce issues of equitable distribution, child custody, visitation, parenting agreements, child support, and alimony will be resolved. The second aspect is what happens after the divorce. If there are children, the parents need to learn how to get along for the health and happiness of their children, even if they really don’t like each other.

At Divorce Mediation Associates, Ltd., our integrative team of Northern Virginia divorce mediators address both aspects. Conflict can arise for many reasons. Some spouses just can’t forgive the other spouse for the dissolution of the marriage. Sometimes divorce occurs because one spouse is having an affair. Many divorces happen because of financial reasons. Our divorce mediators help clients identify the conflicts, and we find ways to reduce or manage those conflicts.

Conflict during the divorce

Some spouses think that an overly aggressive and tough lawyer is the best way to handle a high-conflict divorce. Most times, the reverse is true. Anger often just leads to over-litigation of matters that should be rationally resolved. At Divorce Mediation Associates, Ltd. we take a multi-disciplined approach to mediation, designed to address all of your concerns by helping you create a personalized divorce agreement, which could eliminate any need for contested litigation at all. Our team helps to resolve and manage conflict in the following ways:

  • Experience. Our mediators bring decades of experience to your sessions. We are attorneys and mental health professionals with mediation training who assist you through the process one issue at a time.
  • Conflict management. We address the various types of divorce conflicts:
    • If the cause of the conflict is rooted in your feelings about one another, our experienced and trained mental health professionals can help you balance the personal anxiety and tensions of divorce with the need to calmly address the issues.
    • If the conflict is financial, our divorce mediators explain that mediation is a way for spouses to assert their rights and express their needs with minimal financial pressure. We may also bring in financial experts or specialists to address your concerns, and to help create an agreement which looks to the future.
    • If the conflict is about the children, our team may seek assistance from professionals who can understand and express the needs of the children, help the parents make decisions about custody, and develop viable parenting plans.
  • Practical solutions. Our mediators and staff can often suggest practical solutions that can protect one spouse and satisfy the other spouse. By focusing on your needs and your specific circumstances, we can create an agreement that works for both of you. Our Northern Virginia divorce mediators leverage their integrative backgrounds to create innovative, “out of the box” solutions designed with your interests and goals in mind.
  • A non-adversarial, non-confrontational process. Our mediation sessions require that the spouses converse with each other and the mediator. Our constant aim is to reduce stress, anger, and worry so the couple can focus on what’s really important — reaching a joint level of trust and a joint understanding of how to settle their differences.
  • Impartiality. Virginia spouses should understand that at Divorce Mediation Associates, Ltd., we do not take sides. Neither side can independently influence us through private communication.

Conflict after the divorce

Sometimes, the couple needs to deal with each other after a divorce, even when there aren’t children involved. They may still work together. They may live in the same neighborhood. They often have common friends. Our Northern VA divorce mediators try to reach solutions that minimize the conflict each side may have with each other after the divorce.

If children are involved, we explain how important it is for the parents to work together to help their children cope with this stressful time providing support and sensible decisions for the good of their development and needs. Your agreement may include an extra level of detail to resolve many contingencies, such as one spouse moving or any special needs of the children. We may recommend that children and parents have therapy after the divorce to manage the adjustments. Other issues, such as child safety and the preferences of the child, may be managed with conversation and practical suggestions as well.

Speak with our professional mediators when divorce conflicts arise

At Divorce Mediation Associates, Ltd., our divorce mediators understand how upsetting and intimidating a divorce can be. We have the experience, professional associations, and compassion to help you manage divorce conflicts so that settlements work long-term. For help now, please call our office at 703-665-7592 or fill out our contact form to make an appointment for you and your spouse, and learn more about the process of divorce mediation. We are happy to explain the benefits, and how it might be of help to you.


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