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Civility is Key for a Successful Divorce Mediation

Civility is Key for a Successful Divorce Mediation

Divorce is never easy, but it does not have to take on the character of painful drudgery. Couples that choose to undergo mediation as an alternative to divorce litigation have an incentive to let calmer heads prevail. When you are seeking a divorce in Northern Virginia, the law mandates the division of your assets equitably, and this division becomes a factor in determining child support and spousal alimony. When two people decide to come to a fair and calm resolution, our mediation process is designed to create an environment where that is not only possible, but happens efficiently and with civility.

When you begin the mediation process, all parties meet to agree on a fair and equitable goal. Unfortunately, some couples find that this peaceful reconciliation is not achievable. These people move on to divorce litigation in which substantial time, money, and energy is expended to discover assets, decide on parental rights and child support, and much of their fate is left to the courts. When civility prevails, mediation succeeds. And when mediation succeeds, both parties are more likely to walk away feeling whole and satisfied. Even if they do not get their exact preferences, many people report feeling that a fair balance of assets and support has been achieved in the mediation process. Our attentive, experienced divorce mediators work to guide these couples through the entire mediation process. Although this is a hard time in many people’s lives, it does not have to be wholly contentious.

Communication is the key to civil divorce mediation

Mediation is about feeling like you are in control of your present and your future. When most couples have decided to seek a divorce, they feel like they are out of control of their relationship and, sometimes, their lives. Divorce Mediation Associates, Ltd. assists couples in fostering functional and pragmatic communication so that they might undergo the transition of divorce as amicably as possible.

Some of the key components of effective and civil communication in divorce mediation are:

  • Honesty. Avoid falsehoods and omissions with your mediator, your spouse, and yourself.

  • Full disclosure. Make sure you have divulged all assets, requests, and other information that might be pertinent to the mediation process and negotiations.

  • When you can remain calm, you have better ability to advocate for yourself and your children.

  • If you believe that you can come to an agreement that works for both parties, you are more likely to find a workable solution to your divorce mediation and negotiations.

  • By conducting yourself with respect for your partner and for the mediation process, you will be much more likely to attain favorable negotiations in your mediation.

At Divorce Mediation Associates, Ltd., our mediation team puts civility—and the needs of our clients—at the core of our practice. Civility goes a long way in reaching stable, lasting, and equitable divorce agreements. Please contact us for answers to your questions and to learn how divorce mediation might be the right choice for your family. We can be reached at 703-665-7592, or through our contact form.